To be loved and listened to
1- She wants to wake up and know we both are on the same team and want what's best for the other one no matter what, dependable and reliable. Yet, have the ability to laugh at life, when we get it wrong. It shows you care about her feeling loved, cherished and honored.
2- She wants to trust him and be accepted for who she is(let her be who she is). She wants loyalty, honesty and openness from him. She wants to always know she is the 'apple' of his eye, that she looks good and matter to him.
3- She wants him to talk to her, respecting her opinion and understand her needs. She wants him to get in the habit of checking in with her and schedule time alone for undisturbed heart-to-heart talks. She truly values friendship and companionship with her partner(the ability to give meaningful feedback to her questions).
4- She wants stability and security of enough money to live on comfortably.
5- She wants him to be a good father. Committed to spending time with her and the kids, doing fun activities.
6- She wants him to be a leader. The ability to discuss and agree upon goals for the family with her. She wants him to take the initiative to find solutions to family problems and achieve goals.
7- She wants him to look his best and be physically fit, she values his ability to make sensitive, passionate, sensual love to her on a spontaneous basis and be handy and helpful around the house. She desires to have fantasy discussions about fun things to do with her mate.
8- She wants him strong. Courage to deal with difficulty, pain or danger without backing away. Set limits on the bad treatment he accepts from others. Yet, she does not accept 'abuse' of any kind.
9- She wants him to talk over his thoughts before he make decisions that benefit the family aspirations, celebrate achievements.
10- She wants him to take responsibility for his actions. Don't blame others when you did wrong. She does not want a soft guy who is timid, because she expects you to get the job done from the boardroom to the bedroom. Yet, be nice and kind to her and others.
To be admired and supported
1- He needs a builder that genuinely cares about him, trustworthy team partner and a good looking wife. Loyalty, cooperation and respect is what he values most.
2- He needs friendship that entails honest loving conversations to know she is supportive, loyal and understands him. Women, the person you chose to marry deserves your respect, and the respect of others, so don't gossip, ridicule or complain about your partner at parties or family gatherings. Support in public and correct in private.
3- He needs her to be his playmate, someone he enjoys hanging out with. Engage in recreational activities that both can enjoy together.
4- He needs sexual fulfillment with his partner. Keep yourself in shape, welcome spontaneity. Be open to new ideas and enjoyable exploration.
5- He needs peace and quiet to think over and discuss what's best for the family. Men will not tolerate a game-playing ‘bossy drama queen’ or 'drop and plop' nastiness for very long. She respects his thoughts and do not fight or tear him down on everything she disagrees with.
6- He needs a confident, smart and secure, women that have there own friends and interests.
7- He needs a genuine person that can laugh at herself and who is uplifting, kind, supportive and loving. She supports his endeavors and don't put obstacles in his way. He needs a prayer partner to help him stay connected with GOD for strength and guidance to make the best decisions for the family prayer list requests.
8- He needs her to believe in him, acknowledge his attempts and achievements and tell him how proud she is of him win or lose, don’t make him feel inadequate. A classmate in learning of GOD's word and career/community insights that will help him navigate toward success.
9- He needs to be accepted and trusted for who he is and for what he is driving to accomplish. Being 'equally yoked' ..ability to see eye to eye on important issues and priorities, helps him feel confident that everyone on the team is rowing in the same direction.
10- He needs most of all encouragement and nurturing, from a loving spouse when times are tough. She needs to believe in her spouse, and show it.
- Do not go to bed angry.....really it does work
- When you wake up in the morning ....take a few minutes and tell yourself;
- I love myself, I am enough, Life is good to me, What I need and want is coming to me
- Before leaving the house, either wink, wave, hold hands, kiss or look each other in the eye, then say, 'My desire is to be love, support, and encouragement for you, today.'
- Eat meals at the kitchen table without discussing 'family conflicts/negative issues'.
- Awesome families are playful......Should be fun, not all work, no play.
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