To be loved and listened to
1- She wants to trust him and be accepted for who she is. She wants honesty and openness from him. She wants to always know she is the 'apple' of his eye, that she looks good and matter to him.
2- She wants enough money to live on comfortably. It shows you care about her.
3- She wants him to talk to her, respecting her opinion and understand her needs. She wants him to get in the habit of checking in with her and schedule time alone for undisturbed heart-to-heart talks. She truly values friendship and companionship with her partner.
4- She wants to know that he genuinely cares about me. She wants to wake up and know we both want what's best for the other one no matter what, dependable and reliable. Yet, have the ability to laugh at life, when we get it wrong.
5- She wants him to be a good father. Committed to spending time with her and the kids, doing fun activities.
6- She wants him to be a leader. Take the initiative to find solutions to family problems.
7- She wants him to look his best and be physically fit, she values his ability to make sensitive, passionate, sensual love to her on a spontaneous basis and be handy and helpful around the house.
8- She wants him strong. Courage to deal with difficulty, pain or danger without backing away. Set limits on the bad treatment he accepts from others. Yet, she does not accept 'abuse' of any kind.
9- She wants him to make decisions that benefit the family aspirations, celebrate achievements.
10- She wants him to take responsibility for his actions. Don't blame others when you did wrong. She does not want a soft guy who is timid, because she expects you to get the job done from the boardroom to the bedroom. Yet, be nice and kind to her and others.
To be admired and supported
1- He needs a trustworthy good looking wife. Attractiveness is what you do with what you have.
2- He needs honest, timely, loving conversation to know she is supportive and loyal to him. Women, the person you chose to marry deserves your respect, and the respect of others, so don't gossip, ridicule or complain about your partner at parties or family gatherings. Support in public and correct in private.
3- He needs her to be his playmate, someone he enjoys hanging out with. Engage in recreational activities that both can enjoy together.
4- He needs sexual fulfillment with his partner. Keep yourself in shape, welcome spontaneity.
5- He needs peace and quiet to think over and discuss what's best for the family. Men will not tolerate a game-playing ‘bossy drama queen’ or 'drop and plop' nastiness for very long. She respects his thoughts and do not fight or tear him down on everything she disagrees with.
6- He needs a confident, smart and secure, women that have there own friends and interests.
7- He needs a person that can laugh at herself and who is uplifting, kind, supportive and loving. She supports his endeavors and don't put obstacles in his way.
8- He needs her to believe in him, acknowledge his attempts and achievements and tell him how proud she is of him win or lose, don’t make him feel inadequate.
9- He needs to be accepted and trusted for who he is and for what he is driving to accomplish.
10- He needs most of all encouragement and nurturing, from a loving spouse when times are tough. She needs to believe in her spouse, and show it.
Couples, when you wake up, take a moment to hold hands and look each other in the eye, then say, my desire is to be love, support, and encouragement for you, today.
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